I didn’t go looking for Wicca. It found me.
It was 2014, and I had just met someone new — a woman I barely knew, and yet somehow felt immediately drawn to. In one of our early conversations, she started talking about her beliefs, and something shifted in me as I listened. The way she explained things just made sense in a way that nothing had before.
She talked about life after death — not heaven and hell, but simply the “other side.” She explained reincarnation, and the idea that our souls move through different levels of growth across multiple lifetimes, always evolving, always reaching toward something higher. She talked about the Sabbats and the importance of gratitude — that when we are truly thankful for our blessings, more blessings come. It wasn’t complicated. It wasn’t scary. It just felt like something I already knew, somewhere deep down, and had simply forgotten.
I trusted her almost immediately, which wasn’t like me. And I found out later that there was a reason for that — she was my soul sister. Part of my soul family, the people who travel with us from one incarnation to the next, finding each other again and again across lifetimes. Some connections just can’t be explained any other way.
Finding My Own Beliefs
After that conversation, I started reading everything I could find. And I quickly discovered that Wicca is not one thing — it’s many things, interpreted differently by nearly everyone who practices it. Some books focused on witchcraft. Others barely mentioned it. Some were deeply ceremonial. Others were quiet and nature-based. It was a lot to sort through, honestly. Pretty overwhelming at first.
I also discovered that my own beliefs didn’t fit neatly into any single book I picked up, and that was okay. Over time I came to understand that I believe in one higher power — our Lord — and that the many Gods and Goddesses found throughout Wiccan tradition are his helpers, each with their own domain, their own gifts, their own way of guiding us.
And that quiet inner voice — the one most of us have learned to second-guess or talk ourselves out of? I believe that’s our Lord, offering guidance. He wants us to be happy. He knows what will bring us there. But to hear that voice, you have to get away from all the noise — the busyness, the worry, the endless distraction. When you do, the guidance is there. It always has been.
The Word I Was Afraid Of
For a long time, I didn’t call myself a witch. That word carried weight I wasn’t ready to carry. Where I came from, it wasn’t a neutral word — it had edges to it, connotations I wasn’t comfortable claiming.
But the more I practiced, the more I realized something: if you’re doing the rituals, it’s hard not to be a witch. The word caught up with me eventually, and I made my peace with it. There’s nothing wrong with being a witch — as long as you aren’t a bad one.
My friend, who has gifts I deeply respect, helped me understand something else entirely during this time. She helped me see that I had been a witch in a previous life — that I had practiced openly, taught others, and eventually had to flee persecution, slipping away to a safer place where I could continue my work. And in that lifetime, it was me who had introduced her to Wicca. We had run off into the woods together to do our rituals, two women finding their way by firelight.
I don’t expect everyone to believe that. But I do. And it explains a lot about why Wicca felt less like something new I was learning and more like something old I was remembering.
How I Practice Today
My practice has settled into something that feels completely my own, and it looks different from what you might find in any single book.
I follow the Sabbats, but I experience them as seasons rather than single days of celebration. Each Sabbat gets roughly six weeks of my attention — working with the affirmations, intentions, and energy that correspond to that time of year. It’s a slower, deeper way of moving through the wheel, and it suits me.
I also keep a small daily practice. In the morning, I light a candle and say my affirmation — a simple act, but a grounding one. In the evening, I write in my journal what I’m grateful for. Gratitude is something I return to again and again, because I’ve seen what it does.
Sometimes I go through phases of working deeply with the elements and the energy that moves through everything. I’ll pull out my tarot cards a few times a week when something isn’t making sense — draw a card, sit with it, and more often than not think, ah yes, that’s it. When I do formal rituals, they tend to be focused outward — world peace, justice, healing for others. I rarely ask for anything for myself. There’s no need. I trust that our Lord knows what I need and will make sure I have it.
Wicca, at its heart, is a religion — as valid and as personal as any other. It asks very little of you in terms of rigid rules. The Rede says it simply: “An it harm none, do as ye will.” Everything else is yours to discover. Some practitioners focus on divination and intuition. Some pour their energy into spells and ritual. Some feel most at home in nature, among animals and growing things. Some maintain elaborate daily practices. Others show up fully only on the Sabbats.
All of it is right. All of it is Wicca.
What I Know Now
What I’ve learned after more than a decade on this path is that you have to find your own way. Reading is valuable — it opens doors, sparks ideas, points you toward practices you might never have discovered on your own. But it’s the practice itself that builds your power. Showing up. Doing the work. Returning to it even when life is busy and the candles are unlit and the journal is sitting closed on the shelf.
Practice makes perfect very much applies here. The more you practice, the more your power grows. The more you practice, the easier it becomes to hear that quiet voice. The more you practice, the more you remember who you are.
And remembering who you are — that’s really what this whole path is about.
If you’re just beginning and you’re not sure where to start, I’d love to help. My free Wicca Made Simple Starter Guide is a gentle, welcoming introduction to the foundations of Wicca — grab your copy at the link below and take your first step at your own pace.